Lets Fight It Together
Here are a few guidelines
1. Admit you have a problem & that you are not strong enough
- Our fight is not a fight of will power but a fight against evil. We may be weak to fight it always. We need the Lord at all times to fight this battle for us. Jesus Christ has defeated this enemy on the cross for us. It us to realise that and win the battle, but this is not a realisation of the mind but it also involves a heart that submits to the victory of Jesus and His rule over our brains and body, Jesus says that the Holy Spirit is send for such a reason.
- Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God (ESV Bible)
2. Create accountability
- Telling your spouse is dependent on how they react .
- Tell your mentor or pastor or someone stronger in faith
- Tell a friend of the same gender who will hold you accountable
3. Know your Triggers
A few of the more common internal triggers for porn addiction are:
- Boredom
- Loneliness
- Anger
- Resentments
- Fear
- Anxiety
- Sadness, grief and/or depression
- Stress
- Shame
- Frustration
- Feeling unloved and/or unwanted
- Feeling unappreciated
A few of the more common external triggers for porn addiction are:
- Travel (especially solo travel)
- Ended relationships
- Unstructured time alone
- Negative experiences (of any type)
- Positive experiences (of any type)
- Unexpected life changes (of any type)
- Substance use or abuse
- Unexpected exposure to sexual stimuli (driving past a strip club, seeing a sexy magazine at the newsstand, encountering an attractive person, etc.)
- Financial problems
- Arguments
- Family issues
4. Set Boundaries
- Use all forms possible to block porn
- Use all manners possible to avoid random
- Destroy all porn that is is saved
- Move your pc to a more public area
- Do not be on the phone after late hours when your brain is tired
5. Be careful little eyes
- Flee every temptation
- You are not strong enough
- Do not speand time infront of phone or pc
6. Seek Better Joys
- New hobbies
- New friends
- Go out of the place you are likely to be tempted at
7. Pray
- Pray at all times possible giving thanks, asking mercy
Remember ANTHEM
https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/anthem-strategies-for-fighting-lust
A – Avoid as much as is possible and reasonable the sights and situations that arouse unfitting desire.
N – Say “No” to every lustful thought within five seconds.
T – Turn the mind forcefully toward Christ as a superior satisfaction.
H – Hold the promise and the pleasure of Christ firmly in your mind until it pushes the other images out.
E – Enjoy a superior satisfaction.
M – Move into a useful activity away from idleness and other vulnerable behaviors.
